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So I'm not married or dating. However, a few women friends of mine have said I'm comfortable to be around and I have been told and demonstrate I can be a gentleman. I mean one night I took my best friend to the movies, and it was raining. So I ran out into the rain to get the car for her so she wouldn't get wet.
But my point is I highly respect women, as well as not finding it that difficult to talk with them. However, maybe I respect them too much?
Like I used to have a porn addiction for a good 5 years, thankfully I quit. But I managed to reshape my mind so that even if I see a nice figure or even a nude figure I associate it with beauty and not sex. Also I'm kind of a demisexual anyways.
But I find that if I have thoughts on marriage or getting along with someone and doing romantic things with them I'm good with. But for some reason I just feel icky and almost like I'm degrading this hypothetical person if a thought of sex ever comes up its kind of like a phobia.
Because I have realized that even in marriage I don't have too much of an interest to explore sex, but I do have an interest in making sure my spouse (and God) is happy. So if the wife wanted to do it I would accept. But I have been told that strategy might not be healthy in a relationship.
So even though I haven't found anyone that romantically loves me and not really expecting to date, does anyone have any thoughts on why I feel a little scared or exercises to stop myself from thinking about it?
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But my point is I highly respect women, as well as not finding it that difficult to talk with them. However, maybe I respect them too much?
Like I used to have a porn addiction for a good 5 years, thankfully I quit. But I managed to reshape my mind so that even if I see a nice figure or even a nude figure I associate it with beauty and not sex. Also I'm kind of a demisexual anyways.
But I find that if I have thoughts on marriage or getting along with someone and doing romantic things with them I'm good with. But for some reason I just feel icky and almost like I'm degrading this hypothetical person if a thought of sex ever comes up its kind of like a phobia.
Because I have realized that even in marriage I don't have too much of an interest to explore sex, but I do have an interest in making sure my spouse (and God) is happy. So if the wife wanted to do it I would accept. But I have been told that strategy might not be healthy in a relationship.
So even though I haven't found anyone that romantically loves me and not really expecting to date, does anyone have any thoughts on why I feel a little scared or exercises to stop myself from thinking about it?
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