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For context, We were both virgins before each other. So we are both still inexperienced and trying to figure it out together. We are long distance so we donโt have sex often. He is not circumcised.
In the beginning, My boyfriend said he doesnโt feel as much when heโs inside me, a bit around the tip but not much and definitely not enough to cum. We thought thatโs fine, comes with practice and just getting used to each other. He tried masturbating making a ring with his index finger and thumb instead of the whole hand, that seemed to work a little bit. He told me that it feels good when I stroke or blow him, when I press harder around the head too.
Last time we were together I brought it up that I think you should be able to pull back the skin past the head so itโs exposed (right?). So he would have the sensation that he likes on the head directly instead of through skin (and a condom when itโs PIV). He said he canโt and that it just doesnโt go that far. Thatโs what made me look into it. I brought up phimosis and at first he seemed to listen and even said heโd make an appointment with his doctor to look into it. After some research I told him it doesnโt have to end in circumcision, I also found posts and articles about creams and less invasive things. Later he said he would just try to become more sensitive by masturbating differently or not at all before we see each other.
Personally I donโt think itโs the solution to this, especially not without seeing a doctor. I understand that phimosis is not dangerous but if he canโt enjoy sex fully, i canโt imagine not looking into it at least. I love him and I want him to enjoy it and not default to โthings we know workโ like he suggested, like oral or masturbation. If he doesnโt want to see a doctor about it, I know I canโt make him. But being close and intimate is important to both of us and we enjoy everything else, I just want PIV penetration to feel good for him too.
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In the beginning, My boyfriend said he doesnโt feel as much when heโs inside me, a bit around the tip but not much and definitely not enough to cum. We thought thatโs fine, comes with practice and just getting used to each other. He tried masturbating making a ring with his index finger and thumb instead of the whole hand, that seemed to work a little bit. He told me that it feels good when I stroke or blow him, when I press harder around the head too.
Last time we were together I brought it up that I think you should be able to pull back the skin past the head so itโs exposed (right?). So he would have the sensation that he likes on the head directly instead of through skin (and a condom when itโs PIV). He said he canโt and that it just doesnโt go that far. Thatโs what made me look into it. I brought up phimosis and at first he seemed to listen and even said heโd make an appointment with his doctor to look into it. After some research I told him it doesnโt have to end in circumcision, I also found posts and articles about creams and less invasive things. Later he said he would just try to become more sensitive by masturbating differently or not at all before we see each other.
Personally I donโt think itโs the solution to this, especially not without seeing a doctor. I understand that phimosis is not dangerous but if he canโt enjoy sex fully, i canโt imagine not looking into it at least. I love him and I want him to enjoy it and not default to โthings we know workโ like he suggested, like oral or masturbation. If he doesnโt want to see a doctor about it, I know I canโt make him. But being close and intimate is important to both of us and we enjoy everything else, I just want PIV penetration to feel good for him too.
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