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i am feeling very stuck in the terms of being able to finish. i (19F) am in a 2 year long relationship and he is the only sexual partner i have had. my sex drive even before dating has been relatively low. when we first began dating is was very high and now it is at an all time low.
i honestly have no clue what i like or want and only focus on him in the moments. he always tries to satisfy me and we often talk about my struggles to finish. i have not ever finished with him or even alone. when we have tried new things or soley focused on me i just can not seem to get that release?
at first this has not bothered me and i was content with how our sex life was. now i am realizing that i do want to learn how to experience finishing. my boyfriend often tends to beat himself up over it (me not finishing) even though i feel it is not him. while in the moment i feel i get very overstimulated fast and i also have a short attention span, which has nothing to do with him it is how my brain works. i tend to blame the medications/birth control i am on. most of these medications have various side effects that contradict the next.
i am hoping to finally learn how or where to start. to be honest i am very unsure of what i like in the bedroom. it may be preformance anxiety or simply just me not taking that time to learn myself. i am attracted to my boyfriend and do love him so that is not a contributing factor.
any recommendations for people who have not explored themselves/what they like?
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i honestly have no clue what i like or want and only focus on him in the moments. he always tries to satisfy me and we often talk about my struggles to finish. i have not ever finished with him or even alone. when we have tried new things or soley focused on me i just can not seem to get that release?
at first this has not bothered me and i was content with how our sex life was. now i am realizing that i do want to learn how to experience finishing. my boyfriend often tends to beat himself up over it (me not finishing) even though i feel it is not him. while in the moment i feel i get very overstimulated fast and i also have a short attention span, which has nothing to do with him it is how my brain works. i tend to blame the medications/birth control i am on. most of these medications have various side effects that contradict the next.
i am hoping to finally learn how or where to start. to be honest i am very unsure of what i like in the bedroom. it may be preformance anxiety or simply just me not taking that time to learn myself. i am attracted to my boyfriend and do love him so that is not a contributing factor.
any recommendations for people who have not explored themselves/what they like?
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