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I have a massive foot fetish and I originally posted this in a foot fetish community because my boys over there would relate more, but I am interested to hear from a broader audience.
I recently had this experience that made me feel very insecure and made me realize I need to change something in order have a normal sex life.
I (m27) went to the beach with a girl that I have know for a couple months and have been to a couple dates with. A petit European blonde. She is gorgeous and she had beautiful feet. I really enjoyed watching her spread her toes and flex them. We hanged out for 4 days, swam, ate food and just relaxed. At night we watched movies and had some drinks. At bed time I just slept and didn't have sex. After the first night she asked me why I don't I have sex with her and I just gave some bullshit excuse. The truth is a mix of performance anxiety and ONLY being able enjoy sex when feet are involved, and she does not know about my foot fetish.
In the past, I usually have a boner during foreplay, but I get soft during PIV sex after about 2 minutes and after that I just take a break and try to get hard again. I rarely cum from PIV and more often from blowjobs. I explode from foot jobs or when I get teased with feet. Since I have not been completely open with my partners and have not have a girl that really indulges, my sex life has been below average.
Back to the story: When she asked my why I did not have sex with her, I did not tell her any of that. The following days were even worse. Performance anxiety kicked in. Now I had all this anxiety that I HAD to prove myself and fuck her, which only made me want to have sex less. Now there was no way I could even get hard. The last day she seemed sad and asked my if I don't find her attractive. She asked me to be open with her. She even asked if I'm gay.
After those encounters I just feel like shit. Days have passed and I replay all of that in my head. I feel like I am lacking something very fundamental to being a man. I was not able to have sex.
I was determined to fix this. I straight up told her I have a foot fetish via text and she was just like cool, I have nothing against that. A necessary first step. I also read a book called She Comes First (very eye opening, I was very ignorant about sex) that talks about how to give a woman an orgasm through oral, which at least I can guarantee if I go soft. I even started meditating to get out of my head when I get performance anxiety.
I will not see her for a couple of months because of work, so I will not know if my 'solutions' will work any time soon. But I just wanted to share, and get some feedback or advice from you guys who have been through something similar.
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I recently had this experience that made me feel very insecure and made me realize I need to change something in order have a normal sex life.
I (m27) went to the beach with a girl that I have know for a couple months and have been to a couple dates with. A petit European blonde. She is gorgeous and she had beautiful feet. I really enjoyed watching her spread her toes and flex them. We hanged out for 4 days, swam, ate food and just relaxed. At night we watched movies and had some drinks. At bed time I just slept and didn't have sex. After the first night she asked me why I don't I have sex with her and I just gave some bullshit excuse. The truth is a mix of performance anxiety and ONLY being able enjoy sex when feet are involved, and she does not know about my foot fetish.
In the past, I usually have a boner during foreplay, but I get soft during PIV sex after about 2 minutes and after that I just take a break and try to get hard again. I rarely cum from PIV and more often from blowjobs. I explode from foot jobs or when I get teased with feet. Since I have not been completely open with my partners and have not have a girl that really indulges, my sex life has been below average.
Back to the story: When she asked my why I did not have sex with her, I did not tell her any of that. The following days were even worse. Performance anxiety kicked in. Now I had all this anxiety that I HAD to prove myself and fuck her, which only made me want to have sex less. Now there was no way I could even get hard. The last day she seemed sad and asked my if I don't find her attractive. She asked me to be open with her. She even asked if I'm gay.
After those encounters I just feel like shit. Days have passed and I replay all of that in my head. I feel like I am lacking something very fundamental to being a man. I was not able to have sex.
I was determined to fix this. I straight up told her I have a foot fetish via text and she was just like cool, I have nothing against that. A necessary first step. I also read a book called She Comes First (very eye opening, I was very ignorant about sex) that talks about how to give a woman an orgasm through oral, which at least I can guarantee if I go soft. I even started meditating to get out of my head when I get performance anxiety.
I will not see her for a couple of months because of work, so I will not know if my 'solutions' will work any time soon. But I just wanted to share, and get some feedback or advice from you guys who have been through something similar.
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