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My girlfriend has a few sexual traumas. She was taken advantage of by people who made her feel like she had to have sex to be loved (and she did a lot of things what she didnt proud of. she told me only anal part but there is more which didnt tell me.)., she had to have sex even when she didn't want to. Because of this, her libido level is low, she is terribly dry, she has difficulty getting wet. What really turns her on is when I dominate her, when I whisper stories in her ear like she has sex with xy person or gets surrounded and fucked for example by group of cops, I tell her what a good girl she is.
Meanwhile, for example, if she doesn't feel like having sex and she feels on me that I am approaching her to have sex with her, she freezes, panics. I was thinking that it's not a bad idea that we often do kinky sexual things. Wouldn't it be better to have plain vanilla sex that I would try to spice up so that it is still somehow exciting. I would love to read experiences from both the male and female sides.
I'll be honest, sex is terribly exciting for me from the kinky side, especially because my girlfriend makes sounds that explode my dopamine levels and the last time did sex I touched her was about the first time she was half wet. But all the while I feel like I'm just unconsciously reexperience the sexual trauma in her.
but if we do vanilia sex then she will experience nothing agressive thing just pure love, good vibe things and she will connect it with sex.
of course i dont want to drop this kinky things and never use them. just i want to rly reduce it for the healing purpuse.
so ye give me your opinion!
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My girlfriend has a few sexual traumas. She was taken advantage of by people who made her feel like she had to have sex to be loved (and she did a lot of things what she didnt proud of. she told me only anal part but there is more which didnt tell me.)., she had to have sex even when she didn't want to. Because of this, her libido level is low, she is terribly dry, she has difficulty getting wet. What really turns her on is when I dominate her, when I whisper stories in her ear like she has sex with xy person or gets surrounded and fucked for example by group of cops, I tell her what a good girl she is.
Meanwhile, for example, if she doesn't feel like having sex and she feels on me that I am approaching her to have sex with her, she freezes, panics. I was thinking that it's not a bad idea that we often do kinky sexual things. Wouldn't it be better to have plain vanilla sex that I would try to spice up so that it is still somehow exciting. I would love to read experiences from both the male and female sides.
I'll be honest, sex is terribly exciting for me from the kinky side, especially because my girlfriend makes sounds that explode my dopamine levels and the last time did sex I touched her was about the first time she was half wet. But all the while I feel like I'm just unconsciously reexperience the sexual trauma in her.
but if we do vanilia sex then she will experience nothing agressive thing just pure love, good vibe things and she will connect it with sex.
of course i dont want to drop this kinky things and never use them. just i want to rly reduce it for the healing purpuse.
so ye give me your opinion!
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