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Hi, I am using a Throwaway for obvious reasons! I will begin with a introduction of my problem!
I am male 33 with a wife 32. This year in October we will be married for 7 years and together for 12. The problem is our dying sex life. For almost 2 years now we only have sex once in about 1 or 2 weeks. We once went for about 1,5 months without sex because I just stopped doing anything to initate or to suggest sex.
The sex is still good and we both enjoy it like always but i still cant shake the feeling that something is wrong. I talked with her about it but always get the same answer, that we are both under a lot of stress at work and she just canΒ΄t bring herself to do it. When i try to flirt, cuddle up to her or caress her to initiate something, she alway blocks it and/or gets mad at me. On the other hand she often grabs my groin and wants to initate oral. If I deny her she gets mad but if i let her do it and then want to go further she also gets mad at me for wanting sex. It feels like a lose lose situation.
It now it is really rare that sex does not feel like a transaction or a planned act. Spontanous encounters are impossible and everything else feels good but is not at all satisfying.
I am sorry if I started rambling and I canΒ΄t explain the situation clearly. I am willing to clarify things if necessary!
tldr; In a long marriage but the sex life is almost dead, talked to wife but she blocks every conversation about the subject!
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I am male 33 with a wife 32. This year in October we will be married for 7 years and together for 12. The problem is our dying sex life. For almost 2 years now we only have sex once in about 1 or 2 weeks. We once went for about 1,5 months without sex because I just stopped doing anything to initate or to suggest sex.
The sex is still good and we both enjoy it like always but i still cant shake the feeling that something is wrong. I talked with her about it but always get the same answer, that we are both under a lot of stress at work and she just canΒ΄t bring herself to do it. When i try to flirt, cuddle up to her or caress her to initiate something, she alway blocks it and/or gets mad at me. On the other hand she often grabs my groin and wants to initate oral. If I deny her she gets mad but if i let her do it and then want to go further she also gets mad at me for wanting sex. It feels like a lose lose situation.
It now it is really rare that sex does not feel like a transaction or a planned act. Spontanous encounters are impossible and everything else feels good but is not at all satisfying.
I am sorry if I started rambling and I canΒ΄t explain the situation clearly. I am willing to clarify things if necessary!
tldr; In a long marriage but the sex life is almost dead, talked to wife but she blocks every conversation about the subject!
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