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/u/SeLekhr
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I grew up in a severely abusive family. I was/have been raped more times than I've had consensual sex. I'm struggling with parts of sex right now and I'm trying to work through them, but I need some advice.
I'm dating a man who seems to genuinely enjoy pleasing. We have not been intimate yet! But we've discussed it all. We're meeting up next year and I've no doubt sex will be involved.
I'm a fully willing participant in this, but I'm worried that my "issues" might get in the way?
I don't even know how to handle this rn. He likes to "eat."
Eating is one of my biggest issues. It scares me.
Yes, I know, don't do things you're not willing to, but he makes me want to try? And I do want to try. But I don't know what to do? How to try?
He likes to be the one in charge of foreplay and generally, it's always been me in charge. I don't let people touch me much.
But he wants to, and, again, I want to try this? I'm not sure how.
Does anyone have any advice for me? How to emotionally move forward into this? We've discussed it explicitly, he knows my issues. He's said he'll go slow and stop if I need him to, and there's no pressure on me. Not from him. He's understanding and compassionate about it.
It's all me lol.
What happens if I do panic?
How can I prevent this most?
I'm still working through these issues, and damn. I don't know where to start.
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I'm dating a man who seems to genuinely enjoy pleasing. We have not been intimate yet! But we've discussed it all. We're meeting up next year and I've no doubt sex will be involved.
I'm a fully willing participant in this, but I'm worried that my "issues" might get in the way?
I don't even know how to handle this rn. He likes to "eat."
Eating is one of my biggest issues. It scares me.
Yes, I know, don't do things you're not willing to, but he makes me want to try? And I do want to try. But I don't know what to do? How to try?
He likes to be the one in charge of foreplay and generally, it's always been me in charge. I don't let people touch me much.
But he wants to, and, again, I want to try this? I'm not sure how.
Does anyone have any advice for me? How to emotionally move forward into this? We've discussed it explicitly, he knows my issues. He's said he'll go slow and stop if I need him to, and there's no pressure on me. Not from him. He's understanding and compassionate about it.
It's all me lol.
What happens if I do panic?
How can I prevent this most?
I'm still working through these issues, and damn. I don't know where to start.
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