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I'm a 28 year old cis man, and I've always been attracted to women in the uncomplicated way that most men are. However, I've always felt some attraction to men, too. I remember having sexual fantasies about Robbie Williams as a kid, after watching the music video for Rock DJ. 
Nowadays, my sexual fantasies feature a pretty even split between thinking about women and men.
The reason I'm unhappy with my sexuality is that part of me wants to be attracted to men in the same way as I am with women. When a woman is beautiful, I'm fascinated and can't stop looking at her... But with guys, it just feels like the attraction only appears when I'm already horny, and in the mood for masturbating.
I'm talking to a really nice guy on Tinder, and I feel like he's more enthusiastic about the possibility of there being an "us" than I am, and I'm convinced it's because my attraction to men works differently.
I can enjoy looking at a woman without thinking about sex at all. I want to hold her hand, I want to kiss her on the forehead. But my thoughts can get sexual, too. With guys, the possibility of sex is the ONLY exciting thing. I just don't understand what this is, and what it means. I don't know why it's like this, and I wish there wasn't a gap between how I want to feel, and how I actually feel.
How can I be aroused by men, but not attracted day-to-day?
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Nowadays, my sexual fantasies feature a pretty even split between thinking about women and men.
The reason I'm unhappy with my sexuality is that part of me wants to be attracted to men in the same way as I am with women. When a woman is beautiful, I'm fascinated and can't stop looking at her... But with guys, it just feels like the attraction only appears when I'm already horny, and in the mood for masturbating.
I'm talking to a really nice guy on Tinder, and I feel like he's more enthusiastic about the possibility of there being an "us" than I am, and I'm convinced it's because my attraction to men works differently.
I can enjoy looking at a woman without thinking about sex at all. I want to hold her hand, I want to kiss her on the forehead. But my thoughts can get sexual, too. With guys, the possibility of sex is the ONLY exciting thing. I just don't understand what this is, and what it means. I don't know why it's like this, and I wish there wasn't a gap between how I want to feel, and how I actually feel.
How can I be aroused by men, but not attracted day-to-day?
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