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Disclaimer : I'm very ashamed to talk about that so understand that this post is the final thing I'll do before seeing a medical professionnal because I'm so concerned about it. TM : Trans masculine
I (21M) and my boyfriend (21TM) have been having very bad sex problems that I also had with one other person before (21F). I'm very attracted to him and enjoy intimacy with him, having been with him for 1 and a half year but it's always the same.
Either I feel nothing during sex, and i dont cum, or my brain can't concentrate on it and my boner disappears, or, far more rarely, I enjoy it too much and before cumming I feel very sick because of the enormous amount of sensations, which can give me nausea and convulsions that can last between 2 to 10 minutes which stops me from cumming.
For context im always very concerned when it comes to giving my partners the best time possible and making them cum, making them cum once or multiple times per naughty time.
I'm also a very stressed person naturally, having medical conditions (mostly skin ones) because of it. And always used masturbation as a stress relief, masturbating at least 1 time a day for the past 7 years, although I have tried very hard to stop that I've never been able too, even though I went threw long periods of "no faps" (I guess) which can last 3 to 5 months.
I've also been Sexually abused, as a Child and as an adult.
My sex has always been described as "robotic" in the sense that I don't show that I enjoy it, nor do i show any emotions when doing it, except pain when its painful, I just do the job as well as I can and then stop when my partner seems satisfied. And I am indeed either in my thoughts or my brain just shuts off.
It has been very bad for our sex life since he had always been saying to me that when im like that he doesn't feel any "connection" and is disatisfied with the sex, which hurts me very much since I'm actively trying to do the exact opposite and it has been hurting our emotional life too, have led to arguments between us before.
If you have any advice please give them, I am desperate to make this situation go away since the beginning of my sex life 2 years ago.
Thanks you in advance
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I (21M) and my boyfriend (21TM) have been having very bad sex problems that I also had with one other person before (21F). I'm very attracted to him and enjoy intimacy with him, having been with him for 1 and a half year but it's always the same.
Either I feel nothing during sex, and i dont cum, or my brain can't concentrate on it and my boner disappears, or, far more rarely, I enjoy it too much and before cumming I feel very sick because of the enormous amount of sensations, which can give me nausea and convulsions that can last between 2 to 10 minutes which stops me from cumming.
For context im always very concerned when it comes to giving my partners the best time possible and making them cum, making them cum once or multiple times per naughty time.
I'm also a very stressed person naturally, having medical conditions (mostly skin ones) because of it. And always used masturbation as a stress relief, masturbating at least 1 time a day for the past 7 years, although I have tried very hard to stop that I've never been able too, even though I went threw long periods of "no faps" (I guess) which can last 3 to 5 months.
I've also been Sexually abused, as a Child and as an adult.
My sex has always been described as "robotic" in the sense that I don't show that I enjoy it, nor do i show any emotions when doing it, except pain when its painful, I just do the job as well as I can and then stop when my partner seems satisfied. And I am indeed either in my thoughts or my brain just shuts off.
It has been very bad for our sex life since he had always been saying to me that when im like that he doesn't feel any "connection" and is disatisfied with the sex, which hurts me very much since I'm actively trying to do the exact opposite and it has been hurting our emotional life too, have led to arguments between us before.
If you have any advice please give them, I am desperate to make this situation go away since the beginning of my sex life 2 years ago.
Thanks you in advance
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