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When I was 12 I was SA'd by a family friend. I told my parents and they suspected I was pregnant but refused to let me go to the doctor or get an abortion. They made me wait to do anything until I was far enough along that abortion was out of the question. I hate them for it to this day. They made me do it because they wanted more kids. They had me and my brother but he died as a child which left them with just me and they saw the baby as a sign they were meant to raise another child.
It was traumatizing. It made me feel so lost. I didn't want to keep the pregnancy and I said this multiple times. By the time they took me to a doctor and everything was reported I was too pregnant and I was forced to give birth at 13. The only thing that made me not end things was the fact I was given permission to live with grandma as soon as I was discharged from the hospital.
I never held the baby or met them afterward. I was no contact with my parents and did not go anywhere they might be. The majority of my extended family wanted nothing to do with my parents after what they did. But a small number kept in minimal contact.
I have done extensive therapy and there are still things I will never get over. Or things that to some will sound so broken and wrong. Like the fact I never loved the baby I gave birth to at 13 and have never wanted to know them and that I still wish I could have been given an abortion and saved the added trauma of giving birth.
But I have moved on to live a happy life with my husband and kids. I'm in a good place. Then a few weeks ago I was contacted by my parents after a relative gave them my contact info. They said they had told their kid the truth about me, them, the SA and everything and they had cut all ties with them. They were crying and saying it was awful and how their kid had wanted to know about meeting me and why they weren't always told and stuff like that. Then why they made me give birth. My parents then said I needed to help them and they were so worried about what would happen to their kid. My parents told me their hearts were broken. My response was I don't care followed by I don't owe them anything and they can live with the mess they forced on everyone. But I'm not getting involved. They told me I was a monster and should have found some remaining love for them and some love for their kid.
I ended the call and immediately blocked them. Then I called the family member who was angry at me for refusing to help. They said I could have been more sympathetic and should at least be willing to help because I am where this all started and a person needs me. They also said it's been so many years and my parents don't deserve this held over their heads forever. So I blocked them and went no contact with them. But they are really trying to turns others in the family against me which has not worked. But they are so outraged that I was so awful to my parents and genuinely seem to have expected me to forgiven by now, something I will never do.
This determination from the family member has made me wonder if I'm TA in any way. So this is me asking. AITA?
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It was traumatizing. It made me feel so lost. I didn't want to keep the pregnancy and I said this multiple times. By the time they took me to a doctor and everything was reported I was too pregnant and I was forced to give birth at 13. The only thing that made me not end things was the fact I was given permission to live with grandma as soon as I was discharged from the hospital.
I never held the baby or met them afterward. I was no contact with my parents and did not go anywhere they might be. The majority of my extended family wanted nothing to do with my parents after what they did. But a small number kept in minimal contact.
I have done extensive therapy and there are still things I will never get over. Or things that to some will sound so broken and wrong. Like the fact I never loved the baby I gave birth to at 13 and have never wanted to know them and that I still wish I could have been given an abortion and saved the added trauma of giving birth.
But I have moved on to live a happy life with my husband and kids. I'm in a good place. Then a few weeks ago I was contacted by my parents after a relative gave them my contact info. They said they had told their kid the truth about me, them, the SA and everything and they had cut all ties with them. They were crying and saying it was awful and how their kid had wanted to know about meeting me and why they weren't always told and stuff like that. Then why they made me give birth. My parents then said I needed to help them and they were so worried about what would happen to their kid. My parents told me their hearts were broken. My response was I don't care followed by I don't owe them anything and they can live with the mess they forced on everyone. But I'm not getting involved. They told me I was a monster and should have found some remaining love for them and some love for their kid.
I ended the call and immediately blocked them. Then I called the family member who was angry at me for refusing to help. They said I could have been more sympathetic and should at least be willing to help because I am where this all started and a person needs me. They also said it's been so many years and my parents don't deserve this held over their heads forever. So I blocked them and went no contact with them. But they are really trying to turns others in the family against me which has not worked. But they are so outraged that I was so awful to my parents and genuinely seem to have expected me to forgiven by now, something I will never do.
This determination from the family member has made me wonder if I'm TA in any way. So this is me asking. AITA?
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